10 Quick Tips for A First Date
- by Jane Whitman Category: Dating Views: 170
Let’s face it, first dates are tough. After you’ve finally figured out where you’re going to take her, what you’re going to wear, and what cologne to put on, you still have one tall order to fill: What are you going to talk about on the first date? This is where many women say most men come up short. Here we give a few tips helping you to say goodbye to single life.
Let’s face it, first dates are tough. After you’ve finally figured out where you’re going to take her, what you’re going to wear, and what cologne to put on, you still have one tall order to fill: What are you going to talk about on the first date? This is where many women say most men come up short.
After asking 35 real women what men should know about first date conversation. This is what they said.
7 First Date Tips for Men:
1. Make Eye Contact
During your first date conversation, maintaining good eye contact is crucial. This shows her that you are both paying attention and have nothing to hide.
2. Make Her Laugh
They say humor is the shortest distance between two people. A first date should be light, fun and romantic.
3. A Long Lead Time
Considerate and smart men make plans well in advance. Women love men who have the ability to care for them and about them. It's always a good sign when a man has made reservations because it's proof that you're not winging it. When you take control, it's a signal that she can relax and enjoy herself.
4. Show Her Your Carmen Sandiego Side
Travel is always a great first date conversation piece. Talk about where you’ve been, what you learned, what you saw, and where you want to go next. If you’ve done your job, she’ll be picturing herself with you on that next trip. Oh and if you’ve never really left the shire all that much–shame on you!
5. Follow the 40/60 Rule
There’s a reason why we were born with two ears and only one mouth and that’s because it’s harder and requires much more effort to be a good listener. Give her your full attention. Practice the 40/60 Rule. You should be talking 40% and listening 60% of the time. Two ways to show you are listening is to paraphrase and ask good follow-up questions.
6. Concentrate on Me Too’s
Concentrate on trying to say “me too.” If she says she loves reality shows, you should say me too! (provided that you do like them). This can be done with movies, TV shows, music, books, hobbies and practically anything. The key here is to try to find things that you are both interested in and you’ll find that things get easier from there.
7. Don’t Say We Unless You Mean Wii
Even if the date is going really well don’t jump the gun and talk about future plans together. This will only get you more dates with your PS3 or Xbox. This is definitely a first date conversation no-no.
For single women, these 5 following tips may help you out.
5 First Date Tips for Single Women:
1. Don't be negative about dating.
2. Don't talk badly about your exes.
3. Don't chase your date. (Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase).
4. Don't keep squawking. (Don't feel pressured to try to fill up every second with meaningless chatter).
5. Don't get tipsy. (Always maintain enough sobriety to assess your date's character. Practice restraint, and don't have more than a drink or two when you're out on a first date).
After asking 35 real women what men should know about first date conversation. This is what they said.
7 First Date Tips for Men:
1. Make Eye Contact
During your first date conversation, maintaining good eye contact is crucial. This shows her that you are both paying attention and have nothing to hide.
2. Make Her Laugh
They say humor is the shortest distance between two people. A first date should be light, fun and romantic.
3. A Long Lead Time
Considerate and smart men make plans well in advance. Women love men who have the ability to care for them and about them. It's always a good sign when a man has made reservations because it's proof that you're not winging it. When you take control, it's a signal that she can relax and enjoy herself.
4. Show Her Your Carmen Sandiego Side
Travel is always a great first date conversation piece. Talk about where you’ve been, what you learned, what you saw, and where you want to go next. If you’ve done your job, she’ll be picturing herself with you on that next trip. Oh and if you’ve never really left the shire all that much–shame on you!
5. Follow the 40/60 Rule
There’s a reason why we were born with two ears and only one mouth and that’s because it’s harder and requires much more effort to be a good listener. Give her your full attention. Practice the 40/60 Rule. You should be talking 40% and listening 60% of the time. Two ways to show you are listening is to paraphrase and ask good follow-up questions.
6. Concentrate on Me Too’s
Concentrate on trying to say “me too.” If she says she loves reality shows, you should say me too! (provided that you do like them). This can be done with movies, TV shows, music, books, hobbies and practically anything. The key here is to try to find things that you are both interested in and you’ll find that things get easier from there.
7. Don’t Say We Unless You Mean Wii
Even if the date is going really well don’t jump the gun and talk about future plans together. This will only get you more dates with your PS3 or Xbox. This is definitely a first date conversation no-no.
For single women, these 5 following tips may help you out.
5 First Date Tips for Single Women:
1. Don't be negative about dating.
2. Don't talk badly about your exes.
3. Don't chase your date. (Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase).
4. Don't keep squawking. (Don't feel pressured to try to fill up every second with meaningless chatter).
5. Don't get tipsy. (Always maintain enough sobriety to assess your date's character. Practice restraint, and don't have more than a drink or two when you're out on a first date).
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